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Break the Ice on your First Date

Jul 23

Every first date can be nerve-cracking. Awkwardness is the worst part of a first date. Some people cannot speak and talk to his date with the same confidence he has when he is in front of his friends and family. Breaking the ice on a first date can be difficult, especially if without a plan. Breaking the ice on the first date can be easy with a little bit of forethought. You can also avoid potentially embarrassing or upsetting situations. And there is one way to keep that from happening- to have a list of questions on breaking the ice. But before you can read the list of questions, you have to know first simple things on how will you start a conversation.

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The thing you have to do is to choose an activity that will inspire conversation. Most of the dates are spent in silence, so, movies, plays and concerts are not necessarily the best choices. The best choices for dates are silent places like museums, galleries and open air festivals. These places are more conductive to conversation. If the both of you enjoy sports, then it is best for you to go on sports event. Sporting events are good bet for those will allow the both of you to have a conversation while the action plays out.

You can make jokes to your date, but be sure that those only general or self- effacing humors. You should avoid making fun of others, like jokes about politics or religious beliefs. If you are not comfortable of trying to be funny, you may skip this. It is very important to be natural, act as you are and be comfortable.

You may also break the ice by asking questions. Show your interest when asking, but you should be careful not to get too personal, too quickly. Usually, the safest topics are work, pets, hometown and music. When possible, you can ask about topics that will reveal personality like your date’s favorite comedians or bands.

If necessary, you can have a plan, and fall back to a stock question where you can draw out a conversation. For an instance, ask this, “What are your top five music of all time?” or “If you are going to be another person right now, who it would be?” That would be very great and would bring you a lot of fun.

The following are other questions that you can ask to your date to get to know her more. You may ask her, “What is the best thing on the menu?” Assuming that your date has already been on the same restaurant before, it is one of the more convenient question for breaking the ice. “What do you do for fun?” will let you learn a lot about your date based on what he/ she does during his/her free time. If your date found trouble to answer this question, then your date may be a workaholic or he has no life to speak of. But if the both of you have the same interests, you have already something to talk about. You can also ask your date if she has any pets. Some people love talking about heir pets. This is the reason why it is the best to ask on a first date. You can keep the things lively once you already get to swap your funny pet stories.

There are a lot of questions for you to ask on your first date to get to know someone more. Avoid asking inappropriate questions like about having kids on your first date. You just want to learn enough for you to decide if you want to go on a second date.

It is very important to avoid boasting. Boasting may upset your date. Avoid complaining and using adult language. Try to keep your conversation positive. You should also be a good listener; it’s not just you that will talk all the time. Remember, it is a first date not a declamation contest. It is always important to listen to your date, especially if you are a boy, and respond to her in a way that will show that she is being listened to. And that her thoughts and feelings are also important to you. You can find connections in her views and feelings, allow her to steer the conversation.
You should remember not interrogate your date. Do not even make the mistake of trying to script things, instead, have a general idea of questions you would like to ask. This will greatly help make the conversation flow naturally. Following these steps or pieces of advice will surely give you a good conversation, will create the both of you a better connection and relationship, and it may be your best first date, so far.


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Ask someone on a date

Jul 10

“I have just met a girl. I like her and I think that she likes me too. Problem is I can’t ask her to go out. I don’t know how, and it is really frustrating”. This is a dilemma for everybody. They had met someone that they were just dying to ask out. They thought this person is absolutely perfect in every way. But they are scared to death to ask that person for a date, and so they never did.

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Do you have the same problem? Can’t you ask somebody for a date? Do you still wonder at times how your life might have been different if you had only had the courage to ask?

For many youngsters today, and even adults of course, asking somebody for a date is really intimidating. Many are scared even at the thought of asking someone on a date. They just can’t do it with ease but very uncomfortable doing such a loving act. It is probably because they lack experience.

Don’t worry too much. Asking someone out will be easy. We can help you. Think of dating as simply getting to know someone. This will ease the pressure that you feel. If the night ends in romance, it is great. If it doesn’t, either the time has not come yet, or you were simply weren’t right for each other.

Here are some advices that are simple yet very effective. The following are simple but essential tips you could lean on when you find it hard asking a person for a date:

Just be yourself. Some put huge effort in impressing somebody of whom they are not, just to look cool. If you fear that you may be rejected by someone you ask on a date because you are “not look cool” like somebody else’s, then you definitely will not be successful.  This is a bad start. Looking this way will be really awkward. So, go ahead if you look unpopular. It is better to be yourself rather than imitating other people, especially someone who knew by the person you are asking for a date.

Ask the person personally. This way, you will have the opportunity to see the person you want to date face to face and observe their body language and facial expressions. In an instant, you can see if she is interested. If not, you might find a way to somehow give interest to your invitation. You might as well see her excitement and here some of her thoughts on how you will pursue your date. She might do not want to go to the movies but rather prefer to go to a park or somewhere relaxing. Or it might be the other way. Show interest to what she is saying. Remember, do not forget to smile. Being too serious or looking nervous might lose the interest of the girl you are asking.

Make a plan. Planning will impress your girl. It will show that you are really interested with her and it expresses the idea that she is special. Know her interest and use it. It is always advisable to do a little research about his likes and dislikes. This extra information can act as some great conversation starters and will definitely help to create a positive impression about you on her. But remember, you have to show a genuine interest, because she will really feel it. And if she does, to her, you are one of a kind and indispensable and might be the right man for her.

Just enjoy and relax. Be spontaneous. Enjoy the time you are having together. Make her enjoy the night as you are enjoying it too. Show here that she is important to you. Pamper her with praises, but be sincere about it.  Be yourself and have a good time with her. Women like men who are comfortable with themselves.

Having the feeling that you are with somebody you like and giving her attention to you is intoxicating. It is a pleasure that everybody is dreaming. While at first it is awkwardly, following the foregoing tips will surely help you to ask someone on a date!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       It is better to be yourself rather than imitating other people, especially someone who knew by the person you are asking for a date.


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