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How to Find a Partner Online

May 25

it is just about anybody’s dream to find someone to love him or her. Although it is nice to have your own things to do and to do things your way, there are times when it gets lonely. You would eventually want to spend your life with someone. You would want to share your experiences and accomplishments with someone who wants nothing but your happiness. But finding a partner is never easy. It is never easy to find someone who will love you despite the many flaws you have. It is not easy to find someone who will love you in spite of the many problems you have had in the past.

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But never fear. You will be able to find someone. There is always a designated someone for every person. It is just a matter of how you find this person. Because of technology, many people would opt to find a partner through the use of the internet. More and more people are becoming internet savvy, making people more open to finding love online. The many success stories have encouraged people to try finding love this way. So for those who actually want to try this road, how do you actually find a partner online? Here are tips on being able to find someone online whom you can love and hold:

• be active online. Sign up in forums. There are many people you can meet there. You can interact with them and get to know them better.
• put up a blog. There is no better way to interact with people than by getting them to know something about you. A blog is a perfect way to let people know more about you and get more friends. but be careful not to place too much information online. The internet is crawling with people who like to prey on people and stalk them.
• Make friends online. Comment on people’s blog entries and get to know other people.
• Attend events where in people who met online would meet in person. These events are usually themed. There are usually themes for these events, such as Neil Gaiman fans club get together or comic lovers convention. This would allow you to get to meet people who have similar interests to yours. It will make the conversations a little more interesting and less awkward.
• Be open to chatting with people before meeting them. Though you cannot judge as to what a person would be like by merely chatting with them, this would give you a little idea as to what kind of person he or she is.
• Join discussions of things that interest you. This would be good for you as you both would have things in common.
• Join those speed dating events. Many people usually show up in speed dating events. It is usually facilitated by moderators, making it very safe for you.
• Get friends online to introduce you to other people. It is usually safer nowadays as the internet can give you more information about people. Social networking sites are great as well because you can use them to get better ideas about the people you want to get to know better.
• Be friendly. If people do contact you online, be open to get to know them better. it does not have to be something romantic. Just be open to being friends with them. Nothing is wrong with having more friends online. But draw the line when they become too fresh for you or too close for comfort.
• Join communities online. There are many communities that suit many kinds of people. You can join them to get to know more people.
• Frequent social networking sites. You get to meet a lot of people through those kinds of sites. This will also give you an idea of what kind of person you would be dealing with.

It is never hard to find someone to date. But it is hard to find someone whom you can love and who will love you back. So take the time to collect these people and then select which one you feel would best fit you and your personality.


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How You Can Get your Girlfriend’s Parents to Like You

May 22

Some guys find it so easy to get parents to like them. Whether it is attributed to luck or charm, these guys never seem to have a problem with parents while he dates their daughter. However, there are some parents who aren’t so nice. In fact, it doesn’t have to be both parents who don’t like you even just one parent can make it hell for you to date their daughter.

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In many cases, parents tend to be very picky when guys date their daughters. It’s only natural, they want their daughters to have the best of everything and they would prefer someone perfect to take their daughters out and to woo them. So when you are faced with a mother and father who are definitely not falling for your charms, here are a few tips to help you to get your girlfriend’s parents to like you:

• Do a little of your own research and find out more about your girlfriend’s parents from the things that your girlfriend tells you. Find out what kind of relationship she has with her mother and father and how big an influence they have on her and the decisions she makes. This will give you a better idea of understanding where her parents are coming from.

• Ask your girlfriend to build you up a little with her parents. Have her focus on all your positive aspects and let your girlfriend know that having her parents like you is important to you, especially if you are in it for the long haul with your girlfriend. Make sure she gives them a good impression of you before you meet them in the future.

• Meet your girlfriend’s parents when you know that you really love your girlfriend and when you have the gut feeling that it is the right time. Make sure you meet under comfortable circumstances so that you don’t put yourself through too much agony. You may even want to invite them both to dinner out with you and your girlfriend. Either way, try to impress them on your first meeting and show them that you really care about their daughter.

• Upon meeting them, listen carefully, be observant and find out their reactions to certain things you say or do. Keep a mental note of it and try to fix negative things quickly. Always be alert to things that the parents may enjoy and like so that you can use that information in the future. If the father likes golf, then maybe you could take up golf later. If the mother loves gardening, maybe you could lend a hand in her garden one of these days. All these little bits of information matter when it comes to getting her parents to like you.

• Don’t avoid your girlfriend’s home or her parents as much as you can. You’ll only stress yourself out, and besides, parents know when you are avoiding them. Before picking her up at home, chat with your girlfriend’s parents before taking her out. On weekends, drop by during convenient times and always let them know you are coming over. Don’t overdo it, but let them see that you are not intentionally avoiding them. Otherwise they will resent you for trying to keep them in the dark about your intentions.

• Cut down on the public displays of affection when your girlfriend’s parents are in the vicinity. Reduce contact to just holding her hand at the very least. Be respectful when they are around and focus a little more on them when they come and talk to you. Let your girlfriend know when it is uncomfortable for you to be too affectionate with her parents around. Never hang out in your girlfriend’s room when you visit. Hang out in a common area where you can include her parents in your visit and enjoy each others’ company.

• Be honest and considerate with her parents when you are all together. What they really want to know is that your intentions with their daughter are good. Don’t be afraid to let them know how much you care for their daughter when the topic ever comes up. Have meaningful conversations with her parents so that they know that you are an open and honest guy who can be trusted.


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How to Propose to your Girlfriend

May 10

so you have been with your girlfriend for more than two years. You have both been through a lot of adjusting and a lot of compromising. You have gotten to know her family and she has gotten to know your family as well. your family loves her and her family thinks the world of you. In fact your mother has been very vocal about wanting her grandchildren to look like your girlfriend. You have made future plans with her in mind. A lot of her plans also include you in them. You jive so well and work so well together. You love her so much that you cannot imagine being with someone else. So maybe it is time to propose to your girlfriend of nearly three years. So how do you go about with it?

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Here are the steps you must follow to proposing to your girlfriend:

• be sure that you are ready for marriage. Marriage is not something you should play with. It is something very important and you should think it through.
• the next thing would be to get the ring. Ask for the help of her mother, sister or best friend. Ask them what type of ring she would like. There are so many styles. Try to get them to find out her ring size.
• You can also casually ask her about her style of jewelry when passing by a jewelry store during one of your visits to the mall
• You can also peep at her taste in jewelry. The types of bracelets and necklaces would be able to tell you if she likes flashy jewelry with intricate designs and huge gemstones. You can also tell if she is into simple jewelry that she can wear every day.
• Use her clothing style and lifestyle to tell you what type of ring to get. If she is a glamorous dresser, she might want a flashier sort of ring. If she is into funky wear, then you might want to get her a vintage looking ring that came from Old grandmother’s cupboard. But if she dresses simply but fashionably, it might be wise to get her something simple. Get her something that would easily match with everything she wears and that would not entail her to take it off.
• Look at her fingers and make sure that you find out her ring size. The last thing you would want is to have the ring fall of her hand.
• After getting the ring, make sure that you keep it well.
• Now it is time to find the perfect place to propose.
• Remember the most important moments in your life. try to recall the most important moment in your life and where you were at that time. See if you want to recapture that moment while proposing to her.
• You can pick a romantic restaurant or a trip to the beach. It is up to you.
• You can also recreate her fantasy proposal. Try to find out what this would be. Every woman has a fantasy of how they want to be proposed to. Get her best friend or her sister to find out what her dream proposal would be.
• Be creative with your ideas. Just make sure that she would not have any inkling as to what will happen.
• It is important that you choose a good place to propose. She will remember this moment for the rest of her life.
• As you take her to the place where you plan to propose, make sure that she would not know anything about the proposal.
• It would be nice if you can document the proposal so she can watch it during the years to come.
• Make sure that there are cameras and video cameras to capture the moment she says yes.

There are many ways on how you can propose to your girlfriend. You can do it on a mountaintop. You can hire someone to write it in the sky. You can also place the ring in her cake while she eats it. But the most important thing would be the actual proposing. The most important part would be you letting her know that you want to spend the rest of your life with her because you love her and would not want her to go to someone else.


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How You Can End a Date that has Gone Bad

May 07

There are times that we go out with a guy that we feel could be “the one” and it ends up that he is completely the opposite. For instance, instead of a normal restaurant, he takes you to a fast food place for your first date and expects you to collect and pay for your own meal! Or you’ve gotten all dressed up for a wonderful evening on the town and he shows up in the same shirt he’s been wearing all day and torn jeans and takes you to a bar where he spends the evening checking out other women or talking to his friends who hang out there all week!

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When these things happen to you, you wonder why you even said yes to him in the first place. But you’re a nice girl and nice girls are never rude, so you grin and bear it all. In fact, when he wants to switch locations, you agree and he takes you to an even worse place than before. To save yourself from further torture and torment, here are a few things that you should do to end a disastrous date early, with the grace and confidence that you intend:

1. Take him to the side, if you are surrounded by his friends, and tell him gently and firmly that the evening is just not working out for you. Thank him for the nice date and let him know that there is just no chemistry that you are feeling between the two of you. Most men are not good at guessing what we feel even if we’re obviously uncomfortable, so it is important to be clear and firm about what we say.

2. Don’t give him a goodnight kiss. A goodnight kiss is reserved for those dates that go fantastically well and when we feel that the man’s effort during the date deserves this tiny but most meaningful of rewards. If you hated the date you were on and you give him a kiss, even just a peck on the cheek, this will send the wrong signals and he’ll just think that you were uncomfortable only on that one night, and that maybe you can do it again soon. So just thank him and tell him that you can find your own way home so that you don’t have to sit through even more discomfort if he offers to drive you.

3. If you really hated the date and know that you would definitely not go out with him again, make it clear. He may beg you for another chance by setting another date, but say no and be firm. You may consider dating him again, but if you really don’t want to then don’t beat around the bush and send mixed signals. It will turn out more unfair for the both of you and you’ll end up in another night of torment with him again before realizing it.

4. To stay friends or not to stay friends. This all depends. If you both started out as friends and this date didn’t really do anything to damage your friendship to the point of not wanting to be in the same room together, then staying friends would be okay. Maybe that is how you and he were meant to be – just friends. If it was really horrible and he makes a big deal about it all the time and will never let you forget “the time your abandoned him on a date” then maybe it is better the you just keep away and avoid his friendship. Maybe you weren’t intended to have anything to do with each other after all.

Since lots of men are basically clueless about whether their dates are uncomfortable or not, it is important that we, as women, be clear about what our needs and preferences are. If you are not clear, then it marks the beginning of more trouble in the future. Being clear about our needs and being firm about our decisions can help us avoid nasty nights out that turn out in disaster. Instead, be graceful and confident bring the nasty situation to a place where everyone is comfortable and inconvenienced.


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– How to have Inexpensive yet Satisfying Dates

Apr 23

All your dates cannot be as extravagant as the first one. All the dates cannot be treated as special as your fifth year anniversary. But you cannot stop going on dates. In order to keep the relationship running, you need to go out on dates and relax away from home and work, which are the mundane parts of your life. so how do you actually enjoy yourself if you are not sitting in a posh French restaurant? How do you enjoy yourself without spending so much? Here are some examples of inexpensive yet great dates:

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• go watch an art film together. Most art films are sponsored by the embassies of their respective countries. This is why most of them are free or would only cost almost nothing. Take your loved one to an art film.
• Go to an art gallery or museum. There are some free ones that you can enter. Soak yourself in culture and be together.
• Prepare a picnic together. You need not spend too much. Choose some filling yet inexpensive finger foods. You can prepare your own sandwiches and bring water. This is great as you do not need to spend too much and you get to experience something different.
• Fly kites. This sounds so silly and juvenile. But this would be one of the most enjoyable dates you have ever had. Not only will you be together, you will also be able to feel young again.
• Run around an open field. Remember the days when you were young and would play tag. No one is stopping you from playing tag. Play it again and experience the child in you while enjoying the company of your loved one.
• Enter the bookstore. Many fail to see how the bookstore can be a date place. But it can be a good date place. You both check out books that interest you both and even discuss what books interest each other
• Watch a live band or a solo act. There are many places that offer live bands or solo artists. You both can each drink a bottle or two. This would not cost much. Just make sure that you have both eaten already. Otherwise you will both be drunk before the night is even over.
• Watch television or DVDs at home. this might sound boring. But it is nice to just curl up on the soft chair in the comfort of your own home and be in the arms of your sweetheart.
• Cook for him. this is cheaper than going out to eat in a restaurant. You will even wow him with your domestic skills.
• Try your hand at baking or cooking. Make sure that both of you do this. It will make you feel closer as you both try to do something together.
• Exercise together. You can jog around the park or swim together. This makes for a terrific date as you both keep fit and yet do it together
• Take a walk around the more beautiful spots in your area. There must be a tourist spot in your area. Walk around that place and admire the beauty
• Spend time with your families. play video games, card games or board games. This will get you good points with your parents for staying at home and him for spending time with them.
• Go stargazing. There are many places where you can look at the sky. Get a blanket and lie down on the ground
• Double date with people. That way you can all chip on gas and food. You would not need to spend as much money. This is also good as you guys would interact with other couples.
• Go to the zoo. This sounds very childish but then seeing nature’s handiwork never fails to make people happy
• Learn a sport together. It could be tennis or badminton. But do it together
• Volunteer to do something good for the community. You can help at Habitat and build houses. You can also help out at soup kitchens. Not only will you be spending time with each other, but you will also be spending time helping other people out.

You do not need to spend a lot to be able to have a good time with your partner. It is just important that you spend time with each other no matter what you both do.


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How to Tell if the Guy You Like is Interested in You

Apr 21

So, you haven’t gone out on a date yet, but the guy you like surely looks like he’s about to ask you out, but you’re not sure. The best ways to find out if a guy likes you is to watch his body language carefully and find out what he is saying to other people. Here are some surefire ways to find out if the guy you are into is into you as well:

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1. He gives you “the look”. A person’s eyes are the windows to his soul. This hold true about the guy that you like right now. Check out how he looks at you across a room, while walking past you, or across the table when you are out with friends. He may give you a look that will do a complete sweep of you from head to toe which is the “checking out” look. When you are able to catch his eye from across the table, he may let the moment linger a little longer than necessary before looking back down at his food. Either way, by giving you these looks he is showing you that he is definitely interested in getting to know you better.

2. The things he’ll talk about. Your conversation will start out perfectly with him and chances are you will enjoy each other’s company more than you imagined. You will talk about many things, but he will start zoning into very specific questions about yourself and who you hang out with. This is an indicator that he is trying to find out what your values are and if they jive with his. He will also ask you if you are seeing anyone. This question will definitely indicate that he is interested and is hoping to have a good chance with you. So make yourself look available at least by not wearing a ring and not texting and using your cellular phone too much when he’s around.

3. He shows up unpredictably wherever you are. If he likes you, don’t be surprised to suddenly bump into him at the library or at a place where you usually go to relax like a café. If you are out with friends and he suddenly appears out of the blue with his own friends and you all decide to group up, then you can be sure that he’s been checking out your schedule with his friends and some of your friends. He may suddenly appear and tell you that it is such a coincidence. Appreciate his efforts by taking some time out to stop what you’re doing and talking to him. Chances are he’ll ask you to grab coffee or a sandwich with him so that your time with him can be lengthened.

4. He tells other people. Guys are usually private people who don’t like to talk about other people unless the other person really interests them. Having a friend who is both his and your friend, will definitely help in this area. If he has been telling your mutual friend things about you – like bumping into you, enjoying time with you – then you can be sure that he is interested in you in some way. He may even ask your friend to be a bridge between him and you. Old fashioned method, but it still happens. He will definitely try to get more information about you from your common friends to get tips on how to approach you the next time you meet. He will ask about your interests, your activities, your schedule, and sometimes your family. So by asking mutual friends, you will definitely find out if he is interested.

Aside from all that, once you know that he likes you make sure that you continue being yourself and not overdoing some things to get his attention. You were yourself before he noticed you, which is why it is important to remain natural and friendly. By being yourself and remaining well liked by other friends, he will realize that you are more fun than he expected. Finding out he is interested is one thing, keeping him interested is another. Be yourself and don’t be overly aggressive.


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How to Bring Back the Romance

Apr 18

So you both have been going out for the past four years. It seems like forever. Sometimes you are bored with each other. Sometimes it feels like a monotonous journey. But despite you feeling that you are in a rut, it is important that you constantly make effort to bring back the romance into the relationship. Many say that it is not so important but there must be a constant effort to place some spice into the relationship. It will not last long. but it would remind you of why you were so passionate about each other during the first time. Here are some ways on how you can easily bring back romance into the relationship:

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• Take the time to go on dates. You need to have time with each other away from the mundane things of everyday life. act like giddy teenagers from time to time. It will make you appreciate things about your partner. It might be as simple as watching a movie or drinking coffee. But the act of dating will help keep your relationship running
• Always have meaningful conversations. It is so easy to just fall into a rut and just talk about each other’s day. but it is good to debate about things from time to time. You need to argue (good naturedly of course) about things that interest the both of you or even about politics. This way you are able to keep some fire burning. Intellect is always a big turn on.
• Take the time to kiss. Proper kisses are always needed. The perfunctory peck on the cheek or on the lips is a common thing. It is the easiest thing to do before parting or before sleeping. But it takes time and effort to sit down and kiss. It will bring you back to those moments when you could not get your hands off each other. It will also definitely lead you to a romantic and fun romp.
• Take the time to be intimate. By intimate, I do not mean that you need to have sex all the time. Sex is also good but it is impossible to be having sex all the time. Take time out to hug your partner. There is nothing more comforting and reassuring as a hug during times when you are down.
• Touch your partner. We tend to forget how important stroking the hand or holding hands are. The simple act of touching your partner or stroking the hand would make them feel so loved and wanted.
• Take the time to go out of town. It is easy to get caught up with the mundane things of everyday life. but make sure that you take the time to get out of work and spend time with each other in a different place. It always sets the mood for romance
• Make sure that you give each other enough space. There is nothing like spending too much time together to kill the romance. It gets boring and would make you guys loathe each other.
• Spend time with other people. Spend time with friends and family. That way you learn more about yourself and about other people. If you are always together with each other, the romance will fizzle out even more as there would seem to be nothing more that you can know or find out about each other.
• Do things for each other. Keep the element of surprise there. It is good that you always think about each other and try to surprise each other. This will always keep the other anticipating.
• Do not see each other every day. that way you both have time to do your own things and lead your individual lives.
• Call each other during the day randomly just to say I love you
• Visit your partner as a surprise at work from time to time. It would make the other feel so special
• Do things together like learn a sport together or read a book together. This will create a bond between the both of you. It would be the thing that you would both do together.
• Do not be afraid to show some public displays of affection. You do not grope in public. That would be rather indecent. But kiss the cheek or hug. This will make the other feel that you hold him or her in high regard and are not ashamed to be seen with them.

Do these things and you will see that the romance will continue on. The flame will not burn as strongly but it burn steadily.


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How to Have a Healthy Relationship

Apr 06

a relationship is a constant work in progress. You need to work on it constantly. You need to put time and effort in order to make it work. you cannot expect the relationship to just work by itself. You both need to make conscious effort in order to make sure the relationship will be able to last and flourish.

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Here are some tips to a healthy relationship:

  • never take each other for granted. Treat your partner the same way you would treat your boss or friend. You would never treat your friend shabbily. Give your partner the same kind of respect and care.
  • Talk constantly. Make sure you give yourselves time to talk to each other. Talk about the mundane things like the lame show on the television. It is good that you both would continue to learn about each other through knowing about your own individual opinions on matter.
  • Argue about little things. When I say argue, I mean debate about things. This will keep things spicy as you both will learn more about each other. You will get to know more likes and dislikes as people change day by day.
  • Go out on dates. It is important that you both would make time to relax with each other. It is hard to get excited about dates when you have been going out with each other for a long time. Try to go to different places to eat or do different things that you do not normally from time to time. This will keep the element of surprise there at all times.
  • Be touchy feely with each other. Make sure that you hug, touch and hold hands. This might sound so juvenile but this will help keep the relationship alive. You both need to feel each other to be able to keep the romance alive.
  • Spend time apart. Although it is good to make sure that you both have quality time together, it is also important that you spend time with other people. This way you both would appreciate each other more. It is also important that you spend time with other people as well so that you will learn about other things from different people.
  • Take up similar things together. Do some sports together or take up a hobby together. It is essential that you both have something in common. Common interests or projects help strengthen the relationship.
  • Go out together once in a while. It is important to get away from the mundane things of everyday life. you need time from everything and go get a change of scenery such as visiting other countries or heading out to the beach.
  • Surprise each other. There is nothing like the element of surprise to get the relationship going strong.
  • Kiss. Kissing is a very important part of the relationship that people tend to forget about. We should never underestimate the role of kisses. They excite people and fulfill the physical needs of people.
  • Travel or go places alone. It is good to be with your partner. But you also need ME time. It will make you a better partner if you also have time for yourself to do things that you like to do. You need to be able to have your own time and your own life.
  • Do things that make you happy. If you like painting, take up painting as a hobby. It is essential that you fulfill your own things. You need to be able to accomplish your own things to be able to feel happy and eventually be a good partner.
  • Have a different set of friends from your common friends with your partner. You both should have common friends. but you also need your own set of friends who like the same things you do. As you both are two different people, you both might not like all the same things. So it is important that some people in your life would be able to share the same things with you.
  • Have a relationship with his family and friends. you might not like all of them. But make it a point to see them. Be nice and polite to them. They are a big part of your partner’s life. if you love your partner, you would take the time to get to know them better.

A relationship is a constant work in progress. You need to always put in effort to make things work. eventually this will all pay off big time.


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How to Keep Your Partner Interested in You

Apr 04

If you are currently in a relationship but are noticing that your partner is less responsive to your needs and seems to be losing interest in you as a person, maybe it is time to take a different approach. Most relationships always start out like a fairy tale and the best part of it is the exciting of the beginning. Knowing little about each other, you both love the fact that you learn a little more about each other every day. Every moment brings something new to both of you about the other. But when you are past that stage, where does it go from there?

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Most women are faced with this problem when they have been with one person after a long time. They begin to feel like they are too familiar to their partner and they start to panic that their partner will start looking elsewhere for a more exciting relationship. But don’t fret because there are ways that you can still keep the magic in the air and still maintain the steady relationship that you are heavily invested in. All it takes is some initiative on your part to make some small changes and be willing to be a little different in your approach to some aspects of your life. Here are a few tips on how to keep you partner interested in you:

1. First, take some time for yourself to soul-search and find out if the problem lies in you or him. By doing this, you will see what mistakes you are making and try to fix them. In fact, you can even talk to your partner and ask him if there is anything you can do different to spice up the relationship. With men, it is best to approach the problem head-on instead of beating around the bush and trying to fix everything yourself. Have a heart-to-heart talk and find ways you can reignite the flame between you.

2. Try to be different and try talking less about yourself and listen to him. Most men are used to hearing their significant other rant and rave about their day. Take a different approach and find out how your partner’s day went. Take an hour to completely focus on his work and friends. You’ll find that he has a lot to say, but he is just not being listened to. This way, you will find out more about what he enjoys and wants to do with you to strengthen the relationship you are both nurturing.

3. Approach your guy, sit with him, and discuss your long term goals in the future. Whether or not it involves you and him together or not, this is a great way to find out what he is interested in achieving later on. This will give you a clue as to how you might fit in his plans or not. He may give you a clear signal that he takes you very seriously and sees you with him in his future. Then you can plan things ahead of time that will fit into both your goals and planned life experiences.

4. Be fun and exciting! Guys like to see their partner lively and living life to the fullest. They don’t want to be stuck with a girl who dwells on problems and mopes about problems. They want a girl who may fall but picks herself up again and resumes with a smile and a positive outlook. Don’t be gloomy and boring. Plan activities that will allow both of you an exciting experience like scuba diving, mountain climbing, or hiking. You can be sure that he will love your energy and will look forward to hanging out with you again.

5. Give him some space and be open to him meeting up with friends alone and doing his own thing without you. Trust is one of the best foundations for strong relationships. By giving each other time and space to do your own thing, you can grow as individuals and not have to be inseparable all the time.

6. Stay sexy and keep him interested by taking care of your appearance and hygiene, from looks to scent. Guys are very visual creatures and like to have beautiful partners that they can admire and appreciate. Just imagine that you are still in your early relationship stages and staying pretty is essential. Don’t let yourself go just because things have gotten too familiar between you and your man.


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Towards a Fine First Date

Mar 28

First date – the date that makes you feel goose bumps, excitement and other mixed emotions. This is usually the time when you do not know what to expect of the person you are going to meet. You are probably asking if you would jive right away, or would you bore one another. These tips can surely make some of the jitters controllable enough.

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Dress up according to your date plan. If you plan to have dinner, then this may call for little less revealing clothes. If you plan to go out partying after, wear something that can be made into something more laid back for a party.

Think of some light topics that will surely keep the conversation going. Say, a favorite show or music. This would surely keep them talking about their favorites. You can also ask some simple questions about their jobs; just make sure that these are not too detailed questions, as it may also tend to bore you or them. General things like movies and sports are safe subjects, but avoid strong subjects like religion, politics, war or stuff like that.

When you ask anything, make sure that you also give them honest answers. Do not try to answer questions that you do not have idea about. If they ask you about a movie you have not seen, do not try to make your story to impress them, and just tell that that you have not. There is no point in making something up for such a petty thing. In case you both opt for a second date, you can suggest you watch it together.

Do not fake interest. If you enjoy your topic, then show it. Ask some more questions. But if you are not really keen on the new topic, you can always, smoothly turn to the other direction. If your date is sensitive enough, they would probably steer that way to. The point is, if none of you enjoys a topic, move on to the next. In case your date is not very sensitive, you can tell them in a nice way that you are not comfortable with the topic and then movee to another one.

Do not be afraid to show some emotion, if you feel like laughing a little at an amusing comment, go ahead. There is also nothing wrong in showing a little empathy if the moment calls for it. Just make sure that you do not over do it and move on.

Make an effort to be a little more chivalrous. Some men may still be thinking on whether to open the door for the ladies or not. Well, ladies still appreciate that, opening doors, a little escort on the right direction, or on climbing up or down stairs. These small gestures are actually noticed. Men, just do not treat ladies as if they are old ones.

Keep your attention to your date. There are instances that you may be distracted, like a loud noise, or something, but make sure that these are really loud ones that call attention, if not, then your date might think they are boring you to death. This also includes putting your phone in silent mode so that you will not be put off by unnecessary calls or messages.

Make eye contact. Eye contact is a good way to show that you are interested in what they are saying and you are listening to what they are saying. Besides, eye contact also shows that you are not hiding anything from your date. A nod every now and then also helps in bringing across that you understand what they are saying. At the same time, this would also ensure that you are not just hearing but really listening.

Be considerate of your date. Just in case that they hint you about an early morning by tomorrow, or a hectic, tiring day that day, you may offer them if they would like to end the night earlier. This is a good way to show that you are still concerned about them. If your date graciously denies but you can already see the yawning in their eyes, then you can sincerely tell them that it is alright. They may be a little shy about it. Besides, you can tell them jokingly that you would just make up the next time.


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