How to Set your Disrespectful Partner Straight
Depending upon the severity of your partner’s disrespect, it can possibly be corrected. You can start by lovingly but firmly confronting your partner about the undesirable behavior you no longer want to put up with.
The first step in dealing with a disrespectful partner is to tell that person you will not tolerate any further abuse. This is usually effective in cases when one partner verbally abuses another.
Confronting your partner is the first step in making the person aware of his or her behavior that is causing you grief. This will hopefully be a wake-up call. However, if this does not work you may need to take other actions.
For instance, perhaps you may need to give the person some time alone to think about what he or she has done. This could be a few days, a few months, or even longer. Take as much time as you need to take away from your partner if necessary.
If you have been very badly abused you will want to be very careful about re-entering the situation with the person. If it never gets any better after a considerable amount of time you may want to just end the relationship for good.
Before you end it for good, you do have a few other options open to you. For instance, in cases of being put down by your partner you can ask the person why they would do such a thing. Hopefully the person doing the verbal abusing will not blame you.
However, perhaps they have something that they are requesting from you that you do not understand. If this is the case, then you can hopefully be stern with your partner and say something such as “I am willing to hear you out and take your suggestions, but I will only do so if you speak to me in a respectful manner.”
Relationship is about mutual respect. If you are not given respect by your partner and that person is unwilling to change then it is probably wise for you to move on-as mentioned earlier.
While in transition, you will want to figure out how you can avoid becoming attached to the same type of person in the future. Reading self-esteem books will help and believing you deserve better will do wonders for you.
Depending upon the level of abuse you may also want to be careful not to become abusive yourself. This is why you should take adequate time to heal from a bad relationship before you try to get into a new one.
At the very least you will want to be careful not to get too serious with a new person too fast.