How to Develop a Steady Relationship
No relationship is perfect. There will be slight bumps along the way most of the time, even between two people who love each other very much. The secret of a great relationship is to minimize the number of ups and downs that a couple experiences.
One of the ways to maintain a steady relationship is to know yourself as much as possible before you get serious with someone. You do not necessarily need to know every thing about yourself, but you will want to know as much as possible about what kind of life you want to live.
You also need to have some concrete goals and dreams. Moreover it would be in your best interest to know what is important to you versus what others expect of you. For example, are you pursuing the career that your father expects you to pursue or are you pursuing a vocation that you are passionate about.
Another way to maintain a steady relationship is to have strong social skills. If you are strong in communicating and mingling with other people in a social setting it will impress your new date and you are likely to stay together for a long time.
Also, your partner will be proud to have you around his or her family and friends if you know how to act around them. Making your partner proud to have you around means using discretion in speech and action (i.e. avoiding lewd jokes, picking your nose).
Another way to maintain a steady relationship is to make clear your expectations of your mate very early in the relationship. It is recommended that you do so by the second or third date, or as soon as you have revealed how you feel about one another (or don’t feel about one another).
An additional aspect of developing a steady union is to continue to listen to one another more than you talk. Your wants, needs, and desires are important but so are the wants, needs, and desires of your partner.
Other building blocks of a steady, healthy partnership include the following:
—Speaking to one another honestly: This includes setting appropriate boundaries that are not too rigid and not too loose. You want to let people in but you do not want people to walk all over you.
—Encourage one another: Always help your partner be the best that he or she can be. This includes allowing the person to pursue private interests as well as vocational dreams.
—Forgive each other: Sometimes partners make mistakes and say things to one another that they do not mean. They may also do little things that will let the other down. Saying “I’m sorry” and then forgiving the person who has said “I’m sorry” can restore a relationship very quickly.
—Overlook the “small things”: It is best to overlook minor habits that may be annoying to you. You and your partner will get along much better if you realize that you cannot change that person no matter how hard you try. If the habits your partner has are just too unbearable you have the option to get out of the relationship if you want. However, in most cases you would be more at peace if you can accept the person for who he or she is.
—Give each other space: Even if you are married, you are entitled to a little time alone. Even a half hour to an hour a day by yourself can help you regenerate yourself. It is also recommended that you take time out with friends (preferably not ones of the opposite sex) other than your spouse, or personal hobbies.
—Make time for one another: There is a time for you to be away from your partner, but there is also a time to be close to your partner. This time together is most fruitful when it involves more than just daily routines and sex. Try to remember to date even if you have been together for a long time.